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Big Brother

10/07/2009 · 2 Comments

So he got tagged. Two diligent guys have slept at his (building) door for a good ten days now. They followed him around, taking photos of him enjoying some cheap noodles in the morning, pricey coffee during the day, and carrot juice in the evening (his eyes were swelling as usual, and someone said carrot might help).

He tried to spice up his routine to entertain them, but there’s just so much you can do in a city of traffic jams. He felt for their wives. They must be tough cookies to let their men sleep around like that. But, most of all, he felt embarrassed, for no one actually came over to his house for something serious these days. Girls used to stay overnight. Guys too, when they wanted good VSOP. If they actually took him in now, he would have no story for people to gossip about.

That was how my friend discussed his grave situation. We laughed. Something is just plain ridiculous. Who knows George Orwell is still damn relevant. Twenty years or so have passed since we proudly talked about the Reform. There was this phrase, “We’ve come a long way,” that in early years of the Reform, people liked to say. It signified the magnitude of what has been happening back then. These days, people stay silent about what’s happening. Discussion happens when someone has a point to make. No one really has any point to make now.

Another friend of mine says, being a journalist, she feels depressed. Not that she wants to convey political messages all the time in her reports. She loves fashion, exotic resorts, and good-looking men. But the thought that when there comes a time she wants to do it, she can’t, is unbearable.

I told the friend who got tagged that nothing would happen to him. After all, he’s just an uninteresting figure that won’t make the news for a day. No embassies would stick their neck out to call for his release. No online petition would be signed. What’s the point of all the fuss?

Then I realized, we were talking logic, and logic wouldn’t apply here. He’s a writer, he writes well, and he just won’t budge. Case closed.

So I told him, try to stir things up by bringing someone back home tonight. We’ll cheer for you if you get taken in while a beauty is in company.

We need some reason to laugh at all this, otherwise…

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Fathers

19/06/2009 · 4 Comments

I’ve been lucky enough to be around good fathers – those who showed me that if I had an offspring, he would be safe in his father’s arms.

When I was old enough to face the world on my own, I learned that my Dad talked about me to all who cared to chat with him. His students told me things about myself that I didn’t even remember. A friend of mine who’s a student of Dad once told me about a quarrel I had had with Dad that I completely forgot. Dad said to him, the ‘debate’ made him realize that I was an individual, that I had my right to disagree with him and make my case, and that since then he accepted the fact that I was now a grown-up. Dad never told me what he thought.

When my Brother faced the most difficult decision of his adult life, my Dad sat down and wrote a letter when all talks failed to help. It was the most tender letter I’ve read. It ended with “whatever happens, I’m always here.” The two-page letter took my Dad the whole day to write. He teaches language.

An older friend of mine sent his daughter to college in the US. He accompanied her all the way to make sure everything was fine. The last day before he left, they went for dinner. At the end, he tried to kiss her goodbye. She, not wanting to dramatize the event, backed off. He told me, all of the sudden, he felt old and useless. Still, back home half a globe away, he’s online every single minute he can just in case the young adult who’s his daughter checks in. Another older friend of mine waited ten years for his kids to grow up before filing for a divorce. A few others are stuck in failed marriages believing it is for the sake of the kids.

The day our daughter arrived, my hubby asked in awe, “hey, why do we love her right the moment we see her?” He drove us home from the hospital on a sunny day, hands steady on the wheel, eyes fixed, moving at a speed of a walker. He spent a month teaching our baby how to use the bottle when we had to wean her. He spent all weekends keeping up to her energy. For nearly three years now, he no longer afforded a ten or twelve hours straight of work. And just now, when we came home from lunch, he saw her sneakers at the door and said, “I miss her.” She’s gone to day care at 9am, and will be home by 5pm.

Sometimes it seems a man’s love for his offspring is not as clearly articulated as a woman’s. Moms stay up all night. Dads sleep like a log. Moms give up career. Dad get promoted. Moms ignore romance. Dads embrace it (and for the most part struggle to keep it a private matter). Moms iron clothes everyday. Dads forget the kids’ age. But the impact of that love is no less powerful upon Dads than Moms. It brings the most impossible things out of some men.

Happy Father’s Day.

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Travel is such a bore nowadays

26/05/2009 · 2 Comments

1243368354-sc-533My last two trips were, to my frustration, completely uneventful. Not that the destinations were to blame. One was Rio de Janeiro – Rio, for crying out loud. Where else can be exciting if that place is not? The other was Chicago. Navy Pier, one of its landmarks, is ranked among the top ten most popular destinations in the US. And Frank Lloyd Wright called it home.

I had five days in each town. I covered all recommended landmarks and attractions. I took dozens of good pictures – they would be my desktop background, one by one. I had good food. I even had some surreal moments when some local artists got on their feet and danced a near-erotic version of samba, or when I walked into a rundown jazz store hearing “dance me to the end of love.”

But at the end of the second trip, while lazing around the B14 waiting room in O’Hare airport, I felt so painfully bored and empty. Not even a scan through the taken pictures could chase away such feeling. Keep reading →

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Hồi mẹ còn nhỏ

01/04/2009 · 12 Comments

Hân tự mở cửa tủ rồi khép lại, tay đặt ngay mép cửa, bị kẹp tay. Hân sững người ra một giây, rồi khóc váng lên. Mẹ chạy lại bế, Hân gục đầu vào vai sụt sịt. Mẹ nói, lần sau con để tay trên mặt cửa, đừng để ở mép cửa, hồi nhỏ mẹ để tay mép cửa, bị kẹp tay đau quá, mẹ cũng khóc ầm lên. 
Hân hết khóc. Nhìn mẹ chăm chăm. Rồi Hân nói: “Mẹ còn nhỏ, mẹ bị kẹp tay, Hân chạy ra với mẹ, Hân ôm mẹ”. Rồi Hân hôn bàn tay mẹ.
Mẹ hỏi: “Ba bị kẹp tay thì sao?”. Hân nói: “Ba lớn rồi, ba không bị kẹp tay”. Mẹ hỏi: “Nếu ba mẹ bị kẹp tay thì sao?”. Hân nói: “Hân chạy ra, Hân ôm ba mẹ, ba mẹ gối đầu lên vai Hân. Ba bên này (chỉ vào vai trái) mẹ bên này (chỉ vào vai phải)”.

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Nghẹt mũi và … Sốt Rét

04/03/2009 · 6 Comments

Nghẹt mũi là tình trạng của tôi 4 ngày nay. Không thở nổi.

Còn Sốt Rét thì không phải là tên bệnh, mà là tên của VD bạn tôi – kẻ luôn luôn hoài nghi về hôn nhân cuối cùng cũng làm đám cưới.

Nghẹt mũi và Sốt Rét thì liên quan gì đến nhau? Chả liên quan gì, ngoài chuyện không thở thì không làm gì được kể cả việc viết một đoạn chúc mừng bạn cho ra hồn.

Mà tôi biết Sốt Rét sẽ chẳng khoái chuyện kể lể dông dài về mình. Hắn luôn áp dụng nguyên tắc “nói sợ thừa ra” – cái gì không cần diễn tả bằng ngôn ngữ thì hắn quyết không dùng ngôn ngữ.

Cách đây vài hôm, tôi dọn nhà, thấy trong mớ giấy tờ cũ có cái thư của một ông phóng viên người Mỹ. Lâu rồi, ông ấy sang Hà Nội, Sốt Rét hộ tống ông ấy đi lang thang. Khi về Mỹ, ông ấy nhớ cafe Việt Nam. Đúng dịp tôi sắp sang đây, Sốt Rét bảo: “Vác cafe hộ nhé”, rồi gửi vào Sài Gòn 1/2 vali cafe. Ông già nhận được cafe, viết thư cho tôi: “Khi nào cô có dịp đi qua vùng tôi ở, nhớ ghé thăm, tôi sẽ chăm sóc tận tình. Bạn của VD cũng là bạn của tôi”. Ông còn gửi cho tôi bức ảnh phóng to chụp Hồ Gươm lúc tinh mơ. Sốt Rét có nhiều bạn như thế.

Tôi biết Sốt Rét sợ nhất là vợ con vào rồi thì những thứ hay ho như thế sẽ giãn dần ra. Còn nếu vừa vợ con vừa có những thứ ấy, hắn sẽ vừa lòng. Hắn cũng rất cần một chốn đi về, ấm áp.

Khi nào đặt tên cho con xong, thì báo tên của vợ luôn, Sốt Rét nhé.

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